My husband and I had tried 3 lots of IUI when I was 40 and these had been unsuccessful. We had accepted the fact that we would not become parents.
Every time a friend or work colleague told me that they were pregnant there would be the same familiar surge of grief for something we would never experience. A lost child before they existed.
Then, when I was 45, my doctor referred me for a cancer check. This is a very speedy & scary process. Within two weeks I had been scanned and checked and the mass in my stomach declared benign. In fact, it wasn’t in my stomach, it was actually a huge fibroid. Inside 8 months, the fibroid was removed. It weighed about 1KG so I felt a lot lighter! I was chatting to the consultant afterwards and she heard that we had tried unsuccessfully for children. She worked at a private fertility clinic and suggested we make an appointment. That’s when our lives turned around.
Our consultant told me that my eggs would be pretty useless by this age but that we could consider an egg donor.